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Obras por Eva Margolies

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Esta crítica foi escrita no âmbito dos Primeiros Críticos do LibraryThing.
I ditched this early reviewer book almost immediately. Although I did a review at the time it disappears if you remove it from one’s inventory. I recall finding it to be superficial, shallow, and pointless. It was on par with a Cosmo article about remaking yourself to be physically more appealing to men. 2 stars is being generous. Buy the Cosmo instead if you must.
 
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varielle | 16 outras críticas | Apr 3, 2023 |
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I was expecting a book about being confident, happy, and thus more attractive. Instead I got a book about how to make yourself appear small than men, how to seem subservient, and how to make myself appear weak. Not. Sexy. I couldn't finish it.

On the other hand, there were many brightly colored illustrations. So I guess it will appeal to the kind of weak-willed women who are willing to make themselves less than they are in order to catch a man.
 
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librarymeg | 16 outras críticas | Jan 10, 2011 |
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I will point out right from the start that I am a man writing this review. I got this book as part of a batch of books to review. I had hoped my wife would read and review it for me given the material's intended audience, but after tiring of waiting on her while I received friendly reminders from the publisher that I still hadn't held up my end of the bargain, I decided to do it myself. Perhaps some of you ladies out there will appreciate a man's take on this book's propositions.

First off, generally speaking I applaud the concept behind the book as I do think that too many women unnecessarily turn to surgical alternatives in order to enhance their sex appeal. My wife may not exactly have a centerfold's figure, but she is a natural beauty and I am pleased with her appearance and appreciate her unique if less-than-'perfect'-by-Playboy's-standards features. I find myself turned off by women her are cosmetically enhanced especially when in cases where it seems to me that said woman would be plenty attractive without the artificially upturned nose, augmented breasts, inflated lips or stretched-tight forehead. (And not too mention that I have always thought that a woman that was a little plump is preferable to one that is too skinny.) In summary, I agree with the authors' assertion that most women -- if not all -- can learn to get more out of what they've got rather than looking to artifically alter or enhance their bodies. Sex appeal is a lot more about confidence, a positive attitude, friendliness, approachability and presenting oneself well than it is about big boobs, fat-free hips, permanently-pouty lips and a wrinkle-free forehead. Ladies, if you tend to or want to attract men who appreciate the latter list to the former, you are probably in for very superficial relationships that may only last until an even more enhanced woman comes along. I'd even goes as far as to say that those positive personality traits are even more likely to determine better sex than the exaggerated physical traits do.

That said, I found some of the advice for women to be reasonable and practical while some other suggestions seemed to promote manipulation and superficiality. On the positive side, I think women would benefit from confidence-building/confidence-projecting changes such as presenting themselves well via improved posture, flattering clothig and adding a bit of femininity -- if lacking -- to your movements and gestures (not many men appreciate a masculine touch when it comes to women). Also, I think many of the suggestions regarding improving communication techniques were valid as they are useful not only for becoming more appealing to men but for improving interpersonal communication and, therefore, relationships in general so by all means follow their advice regarding eye contact, showing interest through responsiveness, etc.

However, I was a little put off by the underlying idea that a woman needs to be sure to be perceived as listening through discreet signals but the authors never mention that fundamental to the idea of appearing to listen is to actually LISTEN. Taking their advice, some women might be making such an effort to send listening signals that they forget to listen in the first place! Also on the negative side, too much of the advice struck as being overly artificial and the underlying message was that the techniques would not only help you to attract men but to let them know you were open to sex. They even seem to imply that it's a good technique to insinuate that you are open to sex even if you aren't planning on having sex. I don't think any men find mixed signals attractive -- especially if they are looking for sex, you convince you are open to sex but you are really not at all interested in sex. At the same time, I realize that some of the female consumers of this book are looking for sex -- and no doubt many men are looking for it -- but it seems to promote the idea that these techniques will help you in the CASUAL sex department which seems to me a questionable pursuit in today's reality. That said, I am fully aware the the books aim is to increase a woman's SEX appeal and not merely her attractiveness or self-confidence.

My wife is a woman that naturally does many of the things that are in this book and no doubt that is one of the reasons I found her so attractive when I met her years ago. I enjoy and appreciate her natural sex appeal. Reflecting on the material in this book, I think I would be put off if I had somehow discovered while we were dating that her signals weren't naturally spontaneous but that she had learned and practiced them and was using them to maneuver me to her. No doubt my hormone-driven side wouldn't have taken exception to her purposefully employing a little licking of her own lips and looking at me with bedroom eyes, but it's a lot more satisfying and sexy when I catch her doing those things so naturally that she hardly realizes she's doing it. All that said, I think every woman has her own, natural ways of expressing interest in order to communicate attraction to a man, so every woman should explore her own tendencies and techniques in that area and rather than forcing the use of unnatural methods, maybe it's only necessary that she not be afraid to let her more innate gestures surface with more frequency.

Finally, I agree with other reviewers that the constant change of 'wallpaper' behind the text makes the book that much harder to read visually speaking. Also, I also agree that while the illustrations are pleasant enough and of good quality, sometimes it is difficult to understand well exactly what they are supposed to communicate (e.g., Sally with ankles interlocked vs. Sally with ankles interlocked and slightly turned -- can't see much enough of a difference to be able to imitate her position). As well, the canned conversation between the authors and their composite-based, imaginary client, Sally, did become tedious after a while and often made me feel as though I were watching a cheesy infomercial. And lastly, in the book's opening pages, the authors basically describe Sally, the imaginary client, as a very attractive woman with a nice figure who has bad posture, a whiny voice and generally carries herself in a way that communicates a lack of confidence. In other words, she's got a pretty face and a hot body, we just need to help her show that sexy package she's got to better advantage. I would imagine that a lot of women don't fit that physical description and as such might find it difficult to imagine themselves as a Sally. The authors state that these tips will work to improve anyone's sex appeal -- and they probably would -- but they only present the case of helping an already attractive woman. It seems it would have been helpful for some readers to also see them helping a woman of a more ordinary level of attractiveness or even somewhat unattractive at the outset.
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chilemery | 16 outras críticas | Jun 22, 2010 |
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I couldn't get into this book and I've tried a few times. Guess it's just not my thing.
 
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IntrinsiclyMe | 16 outras críticas | Nov 18, 2009 |

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