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Obras por George A. Bonanno Ph.D.

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Nonverbal Behavior in Clinical Settings (Series in Affective Science) (2003) — Contribuidor, algumas edições8 exemplares

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9 stars: Super, couldn't put it down

From the back cover: A top expert on human trauma argues that we vastly overestimate how common PTSD is and fail to recognize how resilient people really are.

After 9/11, mental health professionals flocked to New York to handle what everyone assumed would be a flood of trauma cases. Oddly, the flood never came.

In The End of Trauma, pioneering psychologist George A. Bonanno argues that we failed to predict the psychological response to 9/11 because most of what we understand about trauma is wrong. For starters, it’s not nearly as common as we think. In fact, people are overwhelmingly resilient to adversity. What we often interpret as PTSD are signs of a natural process of learning how to deal with a specific situation. We can cope far more effectively if we understand how this process works. Drawing on four decades of research, Bonanno explains what makes us resilient, why we sometimes aren’t, and how we can better handle traumatic stress.

Hopeful and humane, The End of Trauma overturns everything we thought we knew about how people respond to hardship.

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Our media and popular culture are full of anecdotes about PTSD, to the point that the phrase has almost lost meaning. Psychologist Dr.Bonanno argues that we fail to predict psychological response to adverse events because most of what we understand about trauma is wrong. For starters, its not as common as people think; we are actually very resilient to adversity. He uses data from 9/11 survivors and other trauma patients to discuss his theory of coping by using "flexibility sequence" steps. This book seeks to answer something I have wondered most of my life: Why am I Ok?

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"The flexibility mindset is essentially a conviction that we will be able to adapt ourselves to the challenge at hand, that we will do whatever is needed to move forward. At the core of the mindset are three interrelated beliefs: optimism about the future, confidence in our ability to cope, and a willingness to think about a threat as a challenge. Each of these beliefs has been found, independently, to correlate with resilient outcomes.
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PokPok | Jan 8, 2023 |
I really liked the approach of this book. I would never claim to be an expert on loss, but I’ve been devastated by the loss of my wife, and I’ve read many books on grieving … basically, I’ve been around the block. The heart of the book was using research data to argue against many long-held beliefs and thoughts. For example, many widows and widowers feel that their loved one is always around and maintain that “relationship” for years. Previously it was professionally thought that this actually retarded people’s shot at “coping.” The author compared a number of studies and found that these survivors who were holding onto their relationships, were doing quite well … nothing was retarded. It showed the power of facts against those old standard practices, practices that were based on very little.

Much of the book was straightforward and made sense, but just a few times I found myself wanting to give it a toss, which happens often with books offering me advice. I never react well when someone tells me how I should feel. Bringing science and data together is always good when there is enough of it to actually tell us something relevant. This is one of the better books on the subject. There are so many accepted and wrong-headed assumptions about loss that have held on for far too long. Anytime I see someone state that it takes “x” number of months or years to get over a loss I’m greatly irritated. Likewise, when anyone starts telling “how” and “when” survivors “should” handle a loss, I’m out of there.

My strongest feeling is that grief handles the survivor, and not the other way around. While many people have similar reactions to losing people, everyone handles events differently. In the same way that everyone loves very differently, people also grieve very differently. So often a friend’s advice is given with the best of intentions, but many times they just want their surviving friend to be back to their old self, to be normal, and they also seem to be thinking, “please don’t make me talk about loss and death again.” I would also like to rail against the term a “new normal” as it a stupid combination of words. Nobody who has lost someone near and dear will ever be the same, loss and death changes people in so many ways … forever.

To me, C.S. Lewis’s raw and unfiltered book A Grief Observed is still one of the strongest books about loss, and it was nice to see him quoted several times in this book. Much of what I liked about The Other Side of Sadness was that many readers suffering from a loss will not be made to feel that they’re odd and completely broken, they will see how many other people suffer from the same feelings, and having those feelings doesn’t make anyone a freak. To sum up, dealing with factual knowledge around a major life change is much better than silly, unproven theory and bromide from years past.
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jphamilton | 4 outras críticas | May 28, 2021 |
Nicely written. Makes one think about loss and grief in a more profound way.
 
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AnnaHernandez | 4 outras críticas | Oct 17, 2019 |
Conventional wisdom holds that grief unfolds in a five-stage process: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. But in The Other Side of Sadness, psychologist George Bonanno overturns this theory of grief--one that we have relied on for over forty yeart--and shows us that it does not, in fact, represent what the majority of us go through when we lose a loved one.
An emotions expert and renowned authority on bereavement, Bonanno shows how the accepted model for mourning discounts our remarkable capacity for resilience. His research demonstrates that we are hardwired to deal with losses efficiently, and often without the help of a mental health professional. Grief, he explains, can actually deepen interpersonal connections and, in some cases, leads to a profound new sense of meaning in life.
In this paradigm-shifting new look at life and loss, Bonanno highlights cutting-edge studies on facial expressions, genuine smiles, and memory and personality tests to show how we effectively and naturally overcome sorrow. He travels to China in search of mourning rituals. And explores wide-ranging case studies, like a mother dealing with the death of her daughter on 9/11, a wife who perseveres after losing her devoted husband, and his own reflections on the death of his father.
Revealing a surprisingly positive perspective on this universal experience, The Other Side of Sadness is a must-read for anyone interested in our innate ability to thrive in the face of adversity.
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CenterPointMN | 4 outras críticas | Sep 24, 2018 |

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