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what is a "vanilla relationship?"
what is polysexuality? (I may have the word wrong...it's poly something)
teach me tonight.
"Polysexuality" refers to the sexual orientation of those who are attracted to people of all genders. People use that term instead of "bisexual" because the "bi" in "bisexual" implies a gender dynamic that only includes male and female, and some people reject that gender binary.
Another "poly" word that might confuse you is "polyamory." It refers to the practice of being in relationships with multiple people. It could be three or more people in a marriage of sorts together, or two people who are primary partners who have secondary partners. The main idea behind polyamory is honesty and commitment --- everything is out in the open, unlike what happens with "monogamous" people who cheat on one another.
By the way, any of these terms is well-defined on Wikipedia. Wikipedia's Sexuality Portal contains many good definitions of terms related to alternative sexuality.
Hope this helps.
That being said, in my experience, the term "vanilla relationship" is often used to describe a "normal" relationship between two people where power dynamics, gender roles, and "kinky play" (anything from spanking to full-on bondage) are not part of the equation. It doesn't have to be a man and a woman - two people of any genders can still be "vanilla", since it seems to mostly refer to kink as opposed to gender/biological preference.
A lot of "vanilla" couples might incorporate a little spanking or some dirty dominant talk in their sex, but does that stop them being vanilla? I say, let that be theirs to decide. *shrug*
As far as "polysexuality" goes, I've not heard that specific term, though I wonder if it might be the same as what my friends call "poly-playful" - they are in emotionally monogamous relationships but they have mutually agreed-upon and negotiated sexual encounters with outside parties (may include BDSM or not). Polyamory, in my experience, refers more to a situation where a person has more than one partner in whom they are emotionally invested.
Whew, that was fun... will check back tomorrow sometime and see if it makes sense, or if I even agree with myself... :-P