Should one parent stay home when raising children?

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Should one parent stay home when raising children?

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Mar 18, 2008, 10:48 pm

My own experience points in the yes direction, but I have seen others that seemed very successful working and raising a child. I tend to conclude it depends on the child. My son is extremely sensitive, and if he doesn't have enough quality time with both my husband and myself, he really suffers. I am wondering if T children deal with it better, and would be curious to see your responses.

Editado: Mar 21, 2008, 2:10 pm

Hard question to answer, it depends on many situational conditions.
I personally believe that children need to be with their mothers for the first year of life and that mothers should, if at all possible, stay home until their child is two or three. I'm not saying fathers aren't important at this time, but baby needs mommy, it's simple.
I think what really matters is if the child and parents spend time together. If this can happen with both parents working things usually work out. It's easier to have a parent at home, but not necessary for a healthy family.
As far as a T and F goes I think both will suffer equally, but T's won't acknowledge to themselves or others that they are missing something. I've seen both F and T friends who are neglected by their parents. F's are more likely to express dislike or animosity towards their parents as a negative reaction. T's will write off their parents as unnecessary, not talk about them or to them, and not admit there is anything wrong. This is from my experience with a small group of friends.

Mar 21, 2008, 3:59 pm

Oh, this could get touchy.

I say yes, one parent should stay home with the kid(s) if at all possible. Not important which one (to me, at least).

Editado: Mar 21, 2008, 6:54 pm

I agree with Vidya that it depends on the situation. Hard to generalize really.

I think the ideal (rather than a "should") is that both parents participate equally in raising their child. Of course this is seldom possible, either financially or logistically. But if hubby and I had a young child, and we both had to work, my ideal would be for both of us to obtain half-time jobs that would enable us to alternate looking after the child at home.

P.S. Edited for the (inevitable) typo :-P