A very highly regarded and very well-reviewed book that, in the end, left me pretty much unaffected. Mom goes missing and the rest of the book is about her children and her husband as they reflect on Mom even as they search for her. Nothing exceptional, to my mind, about the recollections and stories, happy moments, regrets, etc. Disappointing. ( )

I did not understand this book AT ALL. ( )

La novela se desarrolla a lo largo de cuatro partes narradas por cuatro voces distintas que revelan sus sentimientos ante la pérdida: la hija, una escritora que se pregunta si supo valorar el sacrificio de su madre; el hijo, que teme no haber vivido a la altura de sus expectativas; el marido, que se siente culpable por haberla dejado atrás; y por último la madre; una mujer humilde y generosa pero también con secretos y deseos escondidos.

Not my kind of novel. Sappy. I’m sure there were some things I didn’t understand that would have made me appreciate it more. A lot of it was narrated in the 2nd person “You went to the house, then you walked in the door.” Nothing wrong really that I guess, but it was sometimes confusing, and got a little tedious. I did like that it was set in Korea, I suppose if it had been the same basic novel but set in the US with Americans I would’ve quit reading it after a few chapters. Supposedly it was a massive hit in Korea… but then there are plenty of immensely popular books here that I have no interest in either. ( )

Kyung-sook Shin is a prolific and extremely popular South Korean author. Please Look After Mom was her first novel to be translated into English, and was the first novel by a South Korean and a woman to win the Man Asian Literary Prize. For these reasons, I was looking forward to reading the book, but I had a hard time getting into it. Fortunately I persevered, as I ended up enjoying it quite a bit.

The novel opens with a family trying to create a missing persons flyer for their mother/wife. In the process they realize that none of them truly knew her. In the months that follow, memories surface, relationships are reflected upon, and a myriad of feelings emerge. Although the book is narrated in the second person, each chapter is told from the perspective of a different person: the daughters, the oldest son, and the father. There is even a chapter by the mother, and it is only at this point that we learn the woman's name. As each perspective is layered atop the previous ones, the character of the woman they called Mom is developed further.

My initial difficultly in connecting with the book stems in large part from the second person narration. At first I had trouble tracking who "you" was, and it sounded forced to my inner ear. But as I became more engaged, I ceased to notice it as much, and when I finished, I realized why the author chose to use this technique. By inundated the reader with "you", the distinction between reader and character is less clear, and it's impossible not to reflect on one's own family relationships.

The life of the woman at the center of the story is a difficult one. Poor, illiterate, and ignored, she nonetheless sacrifices to ensure that her children succeed in life. Although in her children's eyes, her absence and their guilt combine to beatify her, even going so far as to invoke images of the Pieta, Park So-nyo is a multi-faceted character with some interesting secrets and dimensions.

Please Look After Mom can be read as a universal story of mother-child relationships, or as a South Korean one, with particular emphasis on the tension between the responsibility to care for one's parents and the desire to live independently, and the importance of birth order and gender in sibling relationships. After reading a short biography of the author, I wonder if there are autobiographical elements as well. Like the oldest daughter in the book, Kyung-sook Shin was born into a large family in a rural village but moved as a teenager to Seoul to live with her elder brother and became a successful author. ( )