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This is how you lose her por Junot…
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This is how you lose her (edição 2013)

por Junot Díaz, Jaime Hernandez (Illustrator.)

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Presents a collection of stories that explores the heartbreak and radiance of love as it is shaped by passion, betrayal, and the echoes of intimacy.
Título:This is how you lose her
Autores:Junot Díaz
Outros autores:Jaime Hernandez (Illustrator.)
Informação:New York, N.Y. : Riverhead Books, 2013.
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This Is How You Lose Her por Junot Díaz

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Another beautiful collection by Diaz, but I must confess I'm growing slightly weary of Yunior. All of his conquests are becoming one and the same to me, and his lack of shaping up is starting to make me like him less. I found "Invierno" to be one of the best stories, if only because it dealt with Yunior's childhood (some of my favorite stories in Drown, too). In this way, I wish This Is How You Lose Her was a little more varied. I mean, I get it--these are stories about loss, but I feel Drown was also like that, but the stories often had more redemptive qualities. I'm still in the Diaz camp, though, and am curious to see what he's going to bring us next.... ( )
  LibroLindsay | Jun 18, 2021 |
"The half-life of love is forever."

I could share a dozen-plus favorite lines from the book, and because I want everyone to experience it, I'm tempted to. But instead, I'll just implore you: If you appreciate beautiful writing and have ever loved (and lost) anyone or anything, read "This Is How You Lose Her." Díaz is a brilliant writer, and he uses a "Spanglish freestyle narration," sprinkling his prose with Spanish words and phrases. The collection of short stories mostly narrated by the Dominican Yunior are moving, relatable, witty and electric.

When Yunior's girlfriend, Alma, reads his journal and discoverers he's been cheating:

“Instead of lowering your head and copping to it like a man, you pick up the journal as one might hold a bady's beshattered diaper, as one might pinch a recently benutted condom. You glance at the offending passages. Then you look at her and smile a smile your dissembling face will remember until the day you die. Baby, you say, baby, this is part of my novel.

This is how you lose her.” ( )
  angelahaupt | Jun 15, 2021 |
One of the single most striking lines in this collection comes on the final page of the final story, "The Cheater's Guide to Love": "The half-life of love is forever". On its own the sentence is a good platform for debate, but coming as it does after such an affecting sequence of short stories, and particularly after its protagonist has spent half a decade coming to grips with the consequences of his own short-sighted attitude towards love, it acts as both a startling bridge between the present and the future, as a way to expose our own contradictory feelings about such an intense emotion, and as a reminder that we often use love as a measuring device for our own self-worth.

The book was described to me as being about infidelity, but that's really only mainly true, in that cheating is specifically the main theme, for the opener "The Sun, The Moon, The Stars" and the closer "The Cheater's Guide to Love". Instead I would say that the real theme of the majority of the stories is discovering manhood more broadly: what it's like to become a man, and then, more importantly, to be a man. How do guys learn to relate to each other and to girls? How do attitudes towards what's important in life change over time? What roles do parents play in setting expectations for their children? What are the markers of status in the world of sex and love, and is there anything truly permanent in a place of such fluidity?

It's set in the grimy, unpleasant Dominican immigrant communities of metro NYC. By ensuring that every story is firmly embedded in that world, Díaz is able to both tie in a lot of autobiographical stuff (not that this is purely a roman à clef, but a lot of the book is clearly written from first-hand knowledge), and also use those naturalistic details such as plenty of untranslated Spanish to build a free-standing world for the characters to screw around in. The loose, free sexual attitude of most of the stories is the point - most of the characters have to accept a lot of uncertainty in their lives about pretty much everything, so why not take that attitude towards relationships as well? When you can't count on your family, your job, or anything else about your life, why act like love is forever?

The answer that Díaz implicitly provides is that rampant infidelity is often a sign that someone has something to prove. Even when cheating is a bodily function, like it is for some of the main characters, it's often because they were trying to measure themselves against some kind of half-conscious standard, and if they weren't making the grade for manhood, it meant that they had to cheat even more. Even when the single story with a female protagonist, "Otravida, Otravez", has her as a mistress, the story is actually more about the mismatch between the expectations of what life in the US would be like and the reality than about cheating per se.

The book was described as misogynistic to me, but I didn't find it to be anti-woman (in that way it reminds me of The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, which has sexist characters but isn't really sexist itself). If anything, the men come off looking the worst: confused, over-proud, trying to escape their lives through fucking around on the side like what they have isn't good enough for them. Even if it's hard to find your way in the grim landscapes of the immigrant community, throwing away your chances at lasting happiness by continuous infidelity doesn't improve the situation. And, like that line from the last story shows, even the most inveterate cheater might find that some kinds of attachment are hard to move past. ( )
  aaronarnold | May 11, 2021 |
Diaz is a terrific writer, but he needs to move on from Yunior and write something that does not focus on lying, cheating men. ( )
  DrFuriosa | Dec 4, 2020 |
I gave it four stars because I liked the flow of the writing, the characters, the culture...but I'm really not sure what to think about the book as a whole.

I read the book because I'd heard Junot Diaz's NPR interview and it struck a chord with me. Ostensibly this book is about cheating, gender roles and wars, and the state of being a man of color in romantic America. What it seems to be about more than anything is selfishness, and how selfishness mocks love and twists it into a painful, wound inflicting thing.

So when I finished the book, I didn't want to read it again even though there is some deliciously mouth warming prose within. I didn't wonder about its characters and what happens to them after that last page -- I'm pretty sure they're all miserable, somewhere in fiction-land. I didn't think through the themes and metaphors, even though they're there.

I just felt sad. And tired. If cultural redemption is an artistic thing, consider this a sort of human sacrifice.

As you can see I've had a strong response to this book and what it might mean. I've just given copies to several male friends so I can gather their thoughts too. So basically--this is culturally, socially, and emotionally evocative but not altogether enjoyable. ( )
  EQReader | Dec 1, 2020 |
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The strongest tales are those fueled by the verbal energy and magpie language that made “Brief Wondrous Life” so memorable and that capture Yunior’s efforts to commute between two cultures, Dominican and American, while always remaining an outsider.

“This Is How You Lose Her” doesn’t aspire to be a grand anatomy of love like Gabriel García Márquez’s “Love in the Time of Cholera” — which opens out into a luminous meditation on the varieties of love and loss and the persistence of passion — but it gives us a small, revealing window on the subject.
adicionada por ozzer | editarNew York Times, Michiko Kakutani (Sep 20, 2012)
Así es como la pierdes es un libro sobre mujeres que quitan el sentido y sobre el amor y el ardor. Y sobre la traición porque a veces traicionamos lo que más queremos, y también es un libro sobre el suplicio que pasamos después –los ruegos, las lágrimas, la sensación de estar atravesando un campo de minas– para intentar recuperar lo que perdimos. Aquello que creíamos que no queríamos, que no nos importaba. Estos cuentos nos enseñan las leyes fijas del amor: que la desesperanza de los padres la acaban sufriendo los hijos, que lo que les hacemos a nuestros ex amantes nos lo harán inevitablemente a nosotros, y que aquello de «amar al prójimo como a uno mismo» no funciona bajo la influencia de Eros. Pero sobre todo, estos cuentos nos recuerdan que el ardor siempre triunfa sobre la experiencia, y que el amor, cuando llega de verdad, necesita más de una vida para desvanecerse.
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