Growth in relationships is about working through conflict, not about avoiding conflict. For in order to have real intimacy in a relationship it is crucial that there exist the capacity for conflict. We need to know how to fight fair, to know how to negotiate conflict in a healthy way. In this powerful lecture best selling author John Bradshaw offers the listener practical guidelines for learning how to fight fair. By learning to use self-responsible statements one can begin to establish a basis for negotiating good communication, and building a healthy foundation for managing conflict within our most important relationships with spouse, children, family, friends or co-workers.